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Evening all!

I know there has been a few threads in the past about this subject. Thought I would share my own experience and hopefully others can take some positivity from it.

If your reading this and your in a pretty desperate place at the moment, there is light at the end of the tunnel (excuse the cliche).

I suffered from it for years and there is no coping with it on your own. You think that you can do it but it only gets worse.

In January I was at a point where it had got really bad, suicide attempts regularly (nothing serious, nothing no one else knew about put it that way) - although I bare scars from the cuts on my arms. I could barley get through a day - the cracks in the act were showing and my friends and family were beginning to question the way I was behaving - but people never guess what it really is. Realised I had come to the point where something must be done, either finish it or get some help and see what happens. By the way - still no one knows of what has happened to me recently, suppose I have mastered the art of secrecy...I wouldn't advise it to everyone....it makes it alot harder to cope in the desperate times but can possibly make you stronger when you come out the other side.

Luckily I have a very good GP who knows his stuff and I was put on meds and began CBT. It was pretty awful at first, the meds were f***ing me over (or so I thought) and did not work and the CBT was a complete waste of time. For those who don't know, CBT teaches you to be aware of the ways of negative thinking and the impact it has and points you in the direction of first recognising it then stopping those thoughts and thinking of something positive in a bid to rewire your brain and the way you think. At the early points I was too weak to stop it, although I could recognise my thoughts as bad they still consumed me and I kept falling back down.

Just when everything seemed to be failing, I started on a different med - sertraline. Just like a click of a finger something changed. I started to get strong again. The CBT started to work. The depressive attacks (as I like to call them) were becoming less frequent and less severe when they did happen. However there were certain catalysts that could still spark depression (such as asking a girl out on a date and getting rejected...) and I knew I needed to challenge it (as CBT would advise you to) and as I was stronger I did so and although at first I suffered for it and fell back down - I came out of it even stronger.

Now just 4 months on (still on meds) I am beginning to enjoy life again. I am not in pain anymore. The depressive side of me is still there but with the strength I now have I can fight it off almost immediately.

A long post but to those who are suffering, there is hope even if you do not see it at this moment in time. Stay strong and one day the pain will lessen and you will smile again! (cheesy...) :-D

I have so much to say on this it was pretty hard to cram it in a post that wouldn't look like a biography. :lol:

If anyone wants any info or advice, just ask.
 

i was told and in a funny way it works " your stood on a train station platform and along comes the train with the lit up sign saying depression city...wave it on and climb onboard the next one with happiness on it
 
Good post.

Would any of these type of meds make someone look drunk or really spaced out?

The reason I ask is I suspect a girl in my office may keep having some sort of episode and then gets like this when she is having a bit of a meltdown/panic.

Just so I can keep an eye on it. It's strange, but my first though was that she might be on some medication.
 
admwil said:
Good post.

Would any of these type of meds make someone look drunk or really spaced out?

The reason I ask is I suspect a girl in my office may keep having some sort of episode and then gets like this when she is having a bit of a meltdown/panic.

Just so I can keep an eye on it. It's strange, but my first though was that she might be on some medication.
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From my experience I would say not, but they obviously can affect people in different ways and all depends on what your on. Sorry can't be of much help there, depending on how well you know her I would approach her about it...might be the best thing you do! :-)

And thanks to everyone else. :-D
 
admwil said:
Good post.

Would any of these type of meds make someone look drunk or really spaced out?

The reason I ask is I suspect a girl in my office may keep having some sort of episode and then gets like this when she is having a bit of a meltdown/panic.

Just so I can keep an eye on it. It's strange, but my first though was that she might be on some medication.
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valium can do that mate, its usually prescribed for anxiety and will make people sleepy.
 
urmom777 said:
From my experience I would say not, but they obviously can affect people in different ways and all depends on what your on. Sorry can't be of much help there, depending on how well you know her I would approach her about it...might be the best thing you do! :-)

And thanks to everyone else. :-D
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Cheers mate. All the best and happy to read your post!

lordy said:
valium can do that mate, its usually prescribed for anxiety and will make people sleepy.
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Could be a shout. Need to tread carefully.
 
urmom777 said:
Evening all!

I know there has been a few threads in the past about this subject. Thought I would share my own experience and hopefully others can take some positivity from it.

If your reading this and your in a pretty desperate place at the moment, there is light at the end of the tunnel (excuse the cliche).

I suffered from it for years and there is no coping with it on your own. You think that you can do it but it only gets worse.

In January I was at a point where it had got really bad, suicide attempts regularly (nothing serious, nothing no one else knew about put it that way) - although I bare scars from the cuts on my arms. I could barley get through a day - the cracks in the act were showing and my friends and family were beginning to question the way I was behaving - but people never guess what it really is. Realised I had come to the point where something must be done, either finish it or get some help and see what happens. By the way - still no one knows of what has happened to me recently, suppose I have mastered the art of secrecy...I wouldn't advise it to everyone....it makes it alot harder to cope in the desperate times but can possibly make you stronger when you come out the other side.

Luckily I have a very good GP who knows his stuff and I was put on meds and began CBT. It was pretty awful at first, the meds were f***ing me over (or so I thought) and did not work and the CBT was a complete waste of time. For those who don't know, CBT teaches you to be aware of the ways of negative thinking and the impact it has and points you in the direction of first recognising it then stopping those thoughts and thinking of something positive in a bid to rewire your brain and the way you think. At the early points I was too weak to stop it, although I could recognise my thoughts as bad they still consumed me and I kept falling back down.

Just when everything seemed to be failing, I started on a different med - sertraline. Just like a click of a finger something changed. I started to get strong again. The CBT started to work. The depressive attacks (as I like to call them) were becoming less frequent and less severe when they did happen. However there were certain catalysts that could still spark depression (such as asking a girl out on a date and getting rejected...) and I knew I needed to challenge it (as CBT would advise you to) and as I was stronger I did so and although at first I suffered for it and fell back down - I came out of it even stronger.

Now just 4 months on (still on meds) I am beginning to enjoy life again. I am not in pain anymore. The depressive side of me is still there but with the strength I now have I can fight it off almost immediately.

A long post but to those who are suffering, there is hope even if you do not see it at this moment in time. Stay strong and one day the pain will lessen and you will smile again! (cheesy...) :-D

I have so much to say on this it was pretty hard to cram it in a post that wouldn't look like a biography. :lol:

If anyone wants any info or advice, just ask.
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Good post mate . Wishing you all the best in your continued recovery . Just remember if it starts to come back at anytime it's not the end of the world , you have the skills to turn it round anytime you need to now, use 'em ;-)
 
I suffered badly with depression last year.

I was at the lowest point in my life, suicidal thoughts, couldnt eat, couldnt sleep and was off work for nearly 3 months. The only thing that got me through the day was drink.

After i started to talk to friends and family i realised i wasnt alone and got great support. My GP was excellent also, although he prescribed me anti deppressants, i refused to take them. I managed to get myself together by my own methods and cutting down on the drink. Never underestimate the power of your own mind.

Deppression affects more people than what you think and a lot of people bottle it up for years and feel ashamed of it. I felt ashamed about it and i worried that people might think i was a mentalist.

My best advice to anyone suffering from it is to talk to friends and family and go easy on the fizzy pop.
 
monty79 said:
I suffered badly with depression last year.

I was at the lowest point in my life, suicidal thoughts, couldnt eat, couldnt sleep and was off work for nearly 3 months. The only thing that got me through the day was drink.

After i started to talk to friends and family i realised i wasnt alone and got great support. My GP was excellent also, although he prescribed me anti deppressants, i refused to take them. I managed to get myself together by my own methods and cutting down on the drink. Never underestimate the power of your own mind.

Deppression affects more people than what you think and a lot of people bottle it up for years and feel ashamed of it. I felt ashamed about it and i worried that people might think i was a mentalist.

My best advice to anyone suffering from it is to talk to friends and family and go easy on the fizzy pop.
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this combined with exercise can be a massive help.
 
aye, fair play to the OP for laying it out there.

I suspect we all have a bit of depressive in us, be it the booze blues, the monday morning blues or just plain fed up with your lot. Its how we react to them, I get terrible booze blues after a heavy one where my thoughts drift to negative places like death, health, money etc. but I try and focus on the good i.e. I had a great day out with my good mates, I have a decent job, kids are happy etc. etc.

Out of interest do you think eating healthier affects your mood? i.e. more fruit, water etc.??
 
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