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Dear All,
Hoping for a little direction/advice
Briefly, me and missus still in Hong Kong, but will be leaving permanently this coming August after 21 years. Lots of reason, one of which is the thread today.
Will also be landing in UK for 7-days this coming Saturday 15th with the hope of getting some elderly care things underway.
Father-in-law is coming up 89 - up until 4-weeks ago he was doing pretty well. could get himself around OK although no longer drives thankfully. 100% fully lucid and adept at making salty/Dad jokes.
Lives in rural Rutland, has a lady (you don't want to see) who 'Lodges' in his house. Used to be the cleaner/carer for his partner before she died. Works great as there's someone there morning and night to make sure he's alive - but she's out most of the day doing her rounds.
Has always had the odd fall over the past 10 years, doesn't help that he's a nosey fucker and will rush anywhere to see what's going on and to engage with anyone that looks like they have the ability of speech. Also has always had one of those head first/hip behind walking styles which gives him a terrible centre of gravity.
4-weeks ago, he started having more falls/collapses - some of which he was unable to tell if it was because of tripping or blackouts. Was found a few times in shower, kitchen floor and almost face-first in his wood fire!
Ambulances, nurses, doctors been out half-dozen times as he has one of those fall alarms. They have put it down to 'Old age' - their words.
Generally check him over for cuts, breaks and leave.
2-weeks ago, started falling/collapsing/slumping couple times a day and became very confused as if he was 3-5 years in with Alzheimers. No one, doctors, nurses, local GP would authorise any tests for mini-stroke, concussion, viral/bacterial infections which such sudden onset would suggest. We Facetime a couple hours a day whilst someone is there and he doesn't currently know where he is. Thinks he's in someone else's house.
We are lucky that we managed to get paid for private carers in 5 times a day for all meals, washing, sleeping. They have also used their 'Connections' to get Occupational Therapists in and have had special bed installed in dining room downstairs until we can get there and look at most sensible options. Carers have been brilliant.
A doctor has 'Reluctantly' put him on a week's worth of antibiotics for a water infection which have made a difference (today last day) but no where near enough. One carer just took a urine sample to the GP, handed it over and forced their hand.
My questions are:
* Anyone have experience of paying for private testing/scans etc to bypass the NHS? Happy to pay what it takes but he's not exactly mobile at the moment.
* We have power of attorney (finance and health) already but have no idea how it works with regards to getting access to his finances - carers are costing us around 1200 quid a week at moment and our business has been destroyed by HK's Covid response (and other legislature). He's not short of a bob or two and his 5-bed house not exactly appropriate for him. Anyone been through the process with the banks? Timescales etc?
* Really any other suggestions as missus is going mental and we're beholden to a Golden break contract (which we are breaking to an extent by coming) which severely restricts taking time away from our contracted work - anyone done similar from overseas or from afar?
Appreciate any help people can give. Will be bumping back into a fair few of you next season.
Hoping for a little direction/advice
Briefly, me and missus still in Hong Kong, but will be leaving permanently this coming August after 21 years. Lots of reason, one of which is the thread today.
Will also be landing in UK for 7-days this coming Saturday 15th with the hope of getting some elderly care things underway.
Father-in-law is coming up 89 - up until 4-weeks ago he was doing pretty well. could get himself around OK although no longer drives thankfully. 100% fully lucid and adept at making salty/Dad jokes.
Lives in rural Rutland, has a lady (you don't want to see) who 'Lodges' in his house. Used to be the cleaner/carer for his partner before she died. Works great as there's someone there morning and night to make sure he's alive - but she's out most of the day doing her rounds.
Has always had the odd fall over the past 10 years, doesn't help that he's a nosey fucker and will rush anywhere to see what's going on and to engage with anyone that looks like they have the ability of speech. Also has always had one of those head first/hip behind walking styles which gives him a terrible centre of gravity.
4-weeks ago, he started having more falls/collapses - some of which he was unable to tell if it was because of tripping or blackouts. Was found a few times in shower, kitchen floor and almost face-first in his wood fire!
Ambulances, nurses, doctors been out half-dozen times as he has one of those fall alarms. They have put it down to 'Old age' - their words.
Generally check him over for cuts, breaks and leave.
2-weeks ago, started falling/collapsing/slumping couple times a day and became very confused as if he was 3-5 years in with Alzheimers. No one, doctors, nurses, local GP would authorise any tests for mini-stroke, concussion, viral/bacterial infections which such sudden onset would suggest. We Facetime a couple hours a day whilst someone is there and he doesn't currently know where he is. Thinks he's in someone else's house.
We are lucky that we managed to get paid for private carers in 5 times a day for all meals, washing, sleeping. They have also used their 'Connections' to get Occupational Therapists in and have had special bed installed in dining room downstairs until we can get there and look at most sensible options. Carers have been brilliant.
A doctor has 'Reluctantly' put him on a week's worth of antibiotics for a water infection which have made a difference (today last day) but no where near enough. One carer just took a urine sample to the GP, handed it over and forced their hand.
My questions are:
* Anyone have experience of paying for private testing/scans etc to bypass the NHS? Happy to pay what it takes but he's not exactly mobile at the moment.
* We have power of attorney (finance and health) already but have no idea how it works with regards to getting access to his finances - carers are costing us around 1200 quid a week at moment and our business has been destroyed by HK's Covid response (and other legislature). He's not short of a bob or two and his 5-bed house not exactly appropriate for him. Anyone been through the process with the banks? Timescales etc?
* Really any other suggestions as missus is going mental and we're beholden to a Golden break contract (which we are breaking to an extent by coming) which severely restricts taking time away from our contracted work - anyone done similar from overseas or from afar?
Appreciate any help people can give. Will be bumping back into a fair few of you next season.